postheadericon ***Public Speaking Tips – How to Make Your Voice Sound Lower

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Would you like a deeper speaking voice? Perhaps you are over 21 and think your voice sounds too young. Maybe you feel that your voice is wimpy, strident, harsh, whispery, or nasal. The good news is that you actually have a deeper or lower voice inside of you. It is there just waiting to be discovered.

Yes, the optimum pitch of your speaking voice is definitely located in your lower register, but that does not mean you should be ‘rumbling around’ at your lowest point. (Pitch refers to the highness or lowness of sound and should not be confused with volume which is the loudness or softness of sound.)

99% of the population powers their voice primarily from the cavities of the throat and voice box which means that the pitch of their ‘habitual’ speaking voice is higher than it should be. When I was in graduate school, my singing professor told me that the pitch of my habitual speaking voice was several steps higher than that of my real or resonant speaking voice. So I practiced using that deeper, richer sound when I was at work. Because much of my business was on the phone, I was able to make my ‘real’ voice a habit in just a few short weeks.

You have a better voice inside of you. Everyone does; however, most people are unaware that they can improve their vocal image. Keep in mind, the sound of your voice accounts for 37% of the image you project. And that sound is what you hear on your answering machine or voicemail and not what you hear in your head.

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postheadericon Men, Women, Money and Relationship Conflict

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Do you know that one of the major factors leading to conflict in relationships is the mismatch that exists between partners in their ability to earn an independent financial living?

Do you know that this mismatch comes about when individuals of different genders are not allowed to fully develop themselves as emotionally confident and independent creative beings?

Finally do you know that it is now possible to fully delete the old subconsciously programmed gender role expectations that create this problem thereby allowing individuals to have healthy resilient and long lasting relationships? Want to learn more?

This leaves both men and women raised with these subconsciously programmed expectations feeling emotionally deficient and therefore brittle and vulnerable to potential environmental economic changes.

All programmed role expectations exist stored within the mind/body as negative limiting beliefs that block the full creative expression and potential of an individual. These beliefs are also supported by underlying negative or limiting memories from early life, often pertaining to parent-parent and parent-child interactions.

Such memories support and keep in place their associated negative limiting beliefs such as: I’m unworthy, I’m undeserving, It is my sole role to be a mother, It is my sole role to be a provider, etc,

Now it is possible to completely and permanently erase these memories and their associated beliefs thereby allowing an individual to more freely create their life and relationship experience.

This leads to strong, healthy, adaptable co-creative relationships that last.

To learn more about how to erase negative limiting beliefs and memories kindly visit the web link below.

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Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Life, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

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postheadericon The Key to Having a Successful Long Distance Relationship

I’ve been in a long distance relationship before and it can be very stressful. It also will ONLY work if both persons involved are willing to do what it takes to make it work.

Based on my experience of being in a long term relationship that eventually led to being engaged, here are the steps that I recommend. These steps can be applied if you’re currently in a long term relationship or are thinking about pursuing one.

The key to having a successful long distance relationship is that both of you must have made the decision that you’re going to be committed to one another and are working towards eventually living together or moving closer to one another. This is a serious conversation that you need to have with your man and it shouldn’t be pushed off.

Another key in having a successful long distance relationship is communication. Because you’re not going to see each other every day, you need to keep the lines of communication open and talk often. With the limitless use of technology there is no excuse why you haven’t seen him virtually or spoken to him in days.

Because we need human interaction, you both need to come to an agreement on how often you are going to see each other. Depending on your work schedule and how far you live from one another, you need to make time to see each other. When my fiancé and I were in a long distance relationship we saw each other twice a month. Because we both had weekends off and due to our finances, we came to the agreement that we would spend two weekends out of the month together. One weekend I would travel to see him and the other weekend he would come and see me. This seemed to work out great for us until we eventually were able to live in the same city.

It is possible to have a successful long distance relationship. It just takes a strong commitment, open lines of communication, and team work.

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Erica Johnson, the Mr. Right Attraction Mentor, is the owner of igniteyourlovelife.com, where she teaches women a step-by-step system to enhance their love life and attract a good man.

postheadericon Dating – Want To Make A Better Choice In Your Next Partner?

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Do you know most people find out too late they’ve been stuck in the habit of making bad choices when it comes to a partner? Do you know these choices are not made from a place of freewill consciousness rather are driven by deeply buried co-dependency needs programmed into the subconscious mind that have their roots in early childhood? Do you know that self destructive “programming” can be permanently deleted freeing you to make positive choices for yourself? How does one do that you ask?

So is one fated to be enslaved to this subconscious program forever, you might ask?

Well not necessarily however I must qualify that statement. Let me explain.

There is a way to free one’s self from the ravages of this subconscious program which happens to be driven by negative memories of dysfunctional childhood relationship patterns stored within you. These memories are “active” and imprint you with many negative beliefs about yourself such as: I’m unattractive, I’m unlovable, I’m unwanted, I’m defective, There’s something wrong with me, I’m needy and so on.

Often individuals aren’t even aware they harbor such beliefs about themselves. The “paper trail” of their failed relationship life however clearly delineates how many of these negative beliefs have played a destructive role.

In order to wake up to the presence and effect of these negative beliefs one must have a desire to take back control of their life. If that is in place the next step is to pursue a path that can permanently erase the beliefs and the negative memories that generate them once and for all. In doing so one’s entire sense of self will become “re-formatted” or “re-defined”.

For instance one can rapidly begin to feel whole, complete, adequate, attractive, desirable, lovable, OK within themselves, confident, discerning, wise, self respecting, self assured and so on. These are all prerequisites for making healthy relationship choices that one feels deserving of.

If you would like to experience a new coaching process that can begin to take you there simply go to the web site below.

There you can request a free introductory telephone/Skype consultation that will begin to help you make wise and healthy relationship choices.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor is an International Life, Executive, Organizational Tele-Coach, Author of Esteem For The Self: Restoring the Divine Holographic Energy Field With The Mind Resonance Process® (MRP) and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Consultation and a Free E-copy of my new book are available upon request. (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

postheadericon Men, Do You Want To Be Supremely Confident When Approaching Attractive Women?

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So why is it that a beautiful woman turns even the seemingly most macho man into rubber? Well it has everything to do with the repertoire of unconscious needs most men carry within them without realizing it.

These consist of things such as:

1. The need to be accepted.
2. The need to be perceived as attractive.
3. The need to be liked.
4. The need to appear smart, confident, cool, and together.
5. The need to be validated.
6. The need to have an attractive sexual partner.
7. The need for a sexual experience.

And so on.

Let’s look at the “need to be liked” as an example.

Most people think this need helps them show their best self, so that they can appear attractive, congenial, friendly, smart, confident, present, understanding, empathic, acceptable, and therefore likeable.

In other words if we were to summarize it might be said that: The need to be liked makes one feel attractive, congenial, friendly, smart, confident, present, understanding, empathic, acceptable, and therefore likeable.

So how attractive is that? Not at all!

Yet, if all men harbor these needs where is the solution to this problem to be found?

Well, it turns out that now one can permanently delete these needs from within and evolve into a supremely self confident, self assured, self sufficient, emotionally independent, and attractive male rather easily and quickly.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor is now an International Expert Life, Relationship & Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Consultation and a Free E-copy of my new book are available upon request. (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

postheadericon Are You Obsessed and Desperate To Re-Possess Your Ex?

If you have ever experienced betrayal you’ll know its scars continue to get in the way of being able to engage in healthy, emotionally open and intimate relationships with others. Do you know that it’s now possible to completely and permanently erase the memories of these events leaving you free to move forward with confidence, resilience, security, and the ability to be spontaneously yourself? How is that possible you ask?

The extent to which one is affected by a breakup however speaks to much deeper problem that is often missed. What is that, you ask?

Well first off it often means that the individual existed in a state of denial about the health of their relationship prior to the tragic break. This denial is often driven by a need to ignore ones intuitive feelings about the true state of the relationship. You see, whether you like or not everyone has some intuitive sense of whether their relationship is stable and healthy or not.

If one however is afraid of knowing that truth i.e. acknowledging and trusting their own inner feelings, they do so because they harbour one or more of the following: a fear of rejection, a fear of being alone, a need to be loved and accepted, fears of abandonment, a need to be taken care of and so on. These will make them appear needy, unattractive to their partner and can lead to the breakup itself.

Another way of saying the same thing is that it’s impossible to build a solid and stable relationship on the shaky ground of neediness. The rejection when it comes is painful but is magnified by re-evoked old emotional pain of early life experiences of rejection and abandonment that are themselves responsible for the needy state.

Flooded by these painful feelings the individual is immobilized and unable to move on with life. Interestingly this state can now be rapidly and effortlessly transcended simply by erasing the needy state altogether. This is done by erasing permanently the negative memories of rejection/abandonment from the present and the past from the subconscious mind.

When this is done the individual is left feeling strong, whole, peaceful, in control of themselves, independent, self confident, worthy, attractive, self sufficient, able to take care of themselves, and able to discern clearly. This allows them to make beneficial decisions that will help kick start their life again in a positive and healthy way.

So if you are one of those people who feels obsessed and desperate to get your Ex back because the pain of being without him/her is too great, wants to free yourself from this negativity and move on with your life kindly visit the web site below where you can learn about a new coaching process that can help you begin to erase this pain once and for all.

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Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Self Empowerment Life Coach, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

postheadericon Are you living with If or When?

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Here we are again meeting on a beautiful morning sharing our thoughts to loving the life we have, while dreaming of more. Is that the tape that is running in your head? Or is it a more defeating one? I have been using these very questions with many aspects of my life.

Let’s look at these questions:

** Are you holding on to your dreams and hopes if or when you have boyfriend or girlfriend?

** Are you holding on to your dreams and hopes if or when you have (fill in the blank) _____________?

Example: I would be much happier if we had more time to spend with our kids! or If others wouldn’t bother me so much I would be less crabby. When I have more money I will sit back and enjoy my life.

Hello!?!?! Today is here now… it’s the best time for all. This loving of today will help you move to the dreams of tomorrow.

The key to start attracting more in our lives is to take the first step to look within ourselves. Do you find yourself saying, “I will be much happier if my boss wasn’t a jerk”? Or if everything was less stressful? Often, there are many excuses that fly out of our mouths or pop into our minds. Who is the common denominator? The hard pill to swallow is US! I have been there and decided to swallow this bitter pill a few times in my life. It took me to be at the end of my options and tired of feeling unhappy or unfulfilled.

I had to look within to start a changing journey inside of Merna!

Where do you start? I can almost hear this question out loud as I am writing here, because I have asked the same questions in life. It starts with you! Remember – just KISS; keep it simple stupid! This is a saying I heard many, many years ago and it still rings in my head at times. Often, WE are the culprits that make our life passionless and hopeless. Each of us has the options to start today and make a better feeling life for ourselves. Think of it like ripples in a pond. When our core starts feeling better it will affect each other area of life.

This is where a personal relationship/life coach can help you break down your own barriers. They are the objective person to set the stage for you so you see what housecleaning needs to be done – without judgment!

I will leave you with that for today. I would love to hear about your journals any time. Drop us a note from time to time……..

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Merna Throne is The Inner Voice Vixen: “A Heart with an Edge!” who believes all our answers lie within us today!

She is an Author, and a Super Success Coach & (LifeStyle Coach) Trainer™. Even though her personal self-worth journey began in 1986, her career in the personal development industry as a LifeStyle Coach began in 2004. She has guided thousands of men and women to healthier ground in life and relationships with her work. Her mission is to assist you to tap into your personal power you were born with and catapult life starting with today!

postheadericon Is Your Addictive Needy Inner Child Killing Your Relationships?

Do you know this “inner child’s” primary purpose is to hijack the person’s conscious mind, life and leading you to imminent self sabotage? Do you know this is most commonly experienced in the person’s relationship life where they find themselves becoming alienated, ostracized, shunned, hated, thus leaving this inner child even more “needy” and intensifying its control over the person’s life?

Finally, do you know there is now a way to permanently diffuse, in fact purge, this destructive negative force ending this cycle once and for all thereby giving you full control and ownership of your life back? Want to learn more?

Unfortunately many people find themselves trying to have relationships while handicapped by old emotional baggage in the form of these “needy” inner children.

In fact many of those so-called “relationships” are not what I would call healthy or for that matter “relationships” at all! They are more often subconsciously generated contracts orchestrated and driven by the needy inner children themselves in an attempt to control, manipulate, possess, dominate and exploit the person they inhabit and others.

Sadly most people “believe” that this is normal, acceptable, and what it means to be in a “loving” relationship. Does that feel right to you?

If not then what comes next will interest you.

Let me first say that I do not expect you to “believe” what is going to be said rather to “feel” how right (or not) it feels to you in your Heart. You see, it’s in your Heart’s feeling “sense” that you harbor the truth about everything i.e. therein lives what I refer to as your “emotional guidance system”.

Many people have been programmed to drown out this vital source of information and have thus been rendered feeling lost, confused and needy of external assistance and care taking. So here we go.

1. The needy inner child is a foreign “construct” or “energy entity” that convinces you it is part of you so that it can gain entry into your mind/body and therefore dominate and control you.
2. This foreign intruder does not care about you at all, rather is simply there to drain your Life Force Energy, your confidence, and your will to live.
3. It essentially is like a parasite that feeds off you and uses you to feed off of others i.e. what I have referred to as “exploitative relating” above
4. It (or more appropriately “they” because there is often more than one) is the only thing that is responsible for all of the negative thoughts, perceptions, and behaviours that lead to self sabotage in relationships.

Finally, and most importantly, it is now possible to completely banish, purge or delete these foreign intruders from your mind/body thereby helping you to reclaim full control over your life and freewill ability to direct it.

To learn more about how this is possible or to request a free introductory telephone/Skype consultation of a new coaching process that will help you experience it first hand (the only true way to know what is being said here) kindly visit the web site below where you can begin to take your life back today.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor is an International Expert Life, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author of Esteem For The Self: Restoring the Divine Holographic Energy Field With The Mind Resonance Process® (MRP) and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Consultation is available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

postheadericon Relationships: Self Pity As A Form Of Abuse

Well many of you may not see the direct connection unless you’ve been subject to a partner who has found themselves in it from time to time.

Self pity is usually resorted to when an individual feels victimized by someone or some situation. They choose to fall into this state as a way of trying to comfort themselves, hide away from the world, heal, and/or ask someone else to rescue them from their misery.

Often the individual will also feel and appear depressed, unmotivated, de-energized, and afraid of taking on their normal responsibilities, to be avoiding others, vulnerable and weakened by the traumatic incident. Often this state can become entrenched as a way of life.

The net result is that the individual essentially adopts the role of a victim.

So how does it feel to live with someone like this?

Well if you’ve ever experienced it it makes one feel drawn into rescuing such a “pitiful” individual. Such attempts however get parried by the self pitying individual in such a way that they refuse to be helped.

In other words they hunker down into their victimhood and even unconsciously (and consciously) try to go on justifying their victimhood. They often also go so far as getting angry with their partner if they are not empathic with them as the victims that they are.

This is essentially a form of manipulation. That is the “victim” attempts to manipulate their partner into sympathizing with them and this thereby allows them to remain entrenched in their victim state.

To be around this kind of energy is draining, frustrating and annoying to say the least. When one allows themselves to be drawn into it it’s usually out of some feeling of guilt.

This hooks the partner into letting the “victim” partner off the hook i.e. from taking responsibility for their own situation and hence for doing something about it. Of course the partner then has to go on living with this. So is this sounding abusive to you yet?

So you see self pity is essentially a maneuver to avoid taking responsibility for one’s own situation. This in essence is abusive to the person who engages in it, is it not?

The belief being that by doing so one can feel calmer, happier, safer and more able to have a joyful life.

Well I’ll leave it to you to decide if that is true.

I think that from this discussion you can see that self pity has no healthy role to play in any relationship.

If it exists in yours and you would like to do something about kindly request a free introductory telephone/Skype coaching consultation by visiting the web link below.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Life, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

postheadericon ***How To Marry The Right Guy

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If you fail to notice and question the actions of the one you love in the early stages of your relationship, then you are deluding yourself into thinking he will change later on. Guys rarely do! And so often, women who ignore the warning signs end up getting married, only to discover later on that the guy they married is not who they thought he was.

Make yourself happy – Marry the Right Guy in the First Place!