postheadericon Erase Emotional Baggage And Optimize Your Self Esteem

Do you know that the “only” cause of low self esteem is old emotional baggage stored deep inside your subconscious mind/body in the form of negative memories of failure, neglect, abuse, abandonment, rejection, humiliation etc.? Do you know that this baggage also weighs down your self worth, self …

postheadericon Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract People Who Are Needy?

When it comes to dynamics in relationships that cause problems and a fair amount of frustration, there are two common patterns of behaviour. One of those is when one is attracted to people who are unavailable. So they desire to be another person and yet continually end up being attracted to people who are not there for them.

This is going to create one set of challenges, and what will create another is when one attracts people who are needy. Here, one will end up attracting people who want so much and more than they can or are prepared to give.

And while there can be other relationship challenges that people can have, these two are very common in today’s world. Therefore if one has faced these challenges in their own life or still is, it is not something that should be taken to heart.

The Current State

It is just a reflection of where society is in general and not simply limited to a few individuals here and there. Numerous people on this planet are going through the same challenges at this time. When one has a problem in their life, it is easy to come to the conclusion that they are the only ones who have it.

And this can cause one to feel victimised and hard done by. When in reality, it is not limited to them and something other people are also trying to handle. Realising this can make it easier and stop one from feeling added pressure and stress.

Needy

When one has a pattern of attracting people who are unavailable for instance, it doesn’t mean that this is the case on the odd occasion. It is going to be a way of life for them and due to this, one has a reason to feel aggravated.

And if one has a pattern of attracting people who are needy, it is not that these people have needs that are the problem. Everyone on this planet has needs and that is not something to feel ashamed of or weak.

This is a natural part of being human and this can’t be changed or removed. But there is a clear difference between someone who has needs and someone who is needy.

Behaviour

This is likely to cause someone to behave in ways that are overwhelming; cause one to feel smothered and trapped for example. And even though one could go along with this for a while or have set times when they do, it won’t be enough for this person.

Their neediness will never end, no matter how much one gives into it. These needs are insatiable and unable to be met by another human being. At first, one might appreciate this kind of behaviour and feel loved, valued and important.

However, as time goes by, what was enjoyable soon becomes frustrating and annoying. And if this type of behaviour doesn’t appear from the beginning, then it could come out once they feel comfortable enough to reveal this part of themselves.

Examples

There is going to be all kinds of ways that another’s neediness can appear and some of these will be subtle, while others will be highly visible. This could range from them wanting to see one all the time, constantly messaging or calling and basically not wanting one to leave from their sight.

These are just a few examples and there are inevitably going to be many others. But regardless of what a person does who is needy, they are going to cause one to feel compromised and even smothered.

A Deeper Look

On one side there is someone who is needy and it is clear that they have some work to do on themselves. They are acting in ways that are similar to how a baby would behave around their primary caregiver. To ignore their physical age and to focus on their level of emotional development would soon show that they haven’t grown up.

But while it can seem as though one person is superior to another here and that one is more evolved, this is often far from the truth. Relationships are symbiotic and therefore if one person has issues, the other person also does. If there wasn’t a match somewhere they wouldn’t have been drawn together.

Adaptive Behaviour

What stops this from being realised is when one person is caught up in their history and the other has created different coping mechanism and adaptive behaviour to create the illusion of having no problems.

The Disconnection

And when one has a pattern of attracting needy people into their life, there is a good chance that this person has rejected and denied their needy side. The other person is fully embracing their needy side and this person has become disconnected from it.

The reason why one is so affected by this behaviour is because it reminds them of their own needy side. This is likely to be a side that they feel shamed of for having and would feel incredibly vulnerable should they show it.

So these people are messengers and are mirroring back what one has covered up and neglected for so long. Whilst the other person needs to become more self-reliant, it is likely that one needs to become more interdependent.

Looking Within

Until one looks within and faces their needy side, they will continue to be attracted to and attract people who are needy. One may have learnt at a very early age that having needs was not safe and so they have spent the rest of their life pretending that they don’t have any.

If they were to get in touch with these needs as an adult, they could end up feeling out of control and overwhelmed by them. This can be the result of one having trapped emotions and feelings that started to build up when they were a baby and continued throughout their childhood and adult years. One could also switch between being needless or needy depending on the situation.

Awareness

Needs are not something to feel ashamed of for having or that one is less than for having them. If one has trouble not only admitting to others but also themselves that they have needs, then it might be necessary to seek some kind of assistance.

Author’s Bio: 

Prolific writer, thought leader and coach, Oliver JR Cooper hails from the United Kingdom. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation; love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With several hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behavior, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice. Current projects include “A Dialogue With The Heart” and “Communication Made Easy.”

postheadericon “Magic Dating Formula” That Guarantees She’ll Have A Great Time With You

How many times has it happened in your past where a date didn’t go the way you planned? You planned out a whole romantic evening, you gave it a lot of thought, spent a lot of your time. And surprisingly it went nowhere with the girl. That sucks doesn’t it? What’s worse is she didn’t …

postheadericon Divorce – Releasing the “Curse” of Parental Divorce Forever

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For some of you this discussion may start to feel a bit esoteric but I can tell you, that over 13 years of experience has shown conclusively that what I outline here has validity.

Here we go.

The memory of parental divorce is “stored” inside of you as a negative memory. Simply by being there is adds to your identity or your so called personality i.e. “I am a child of divorced parents”.

Now notice how that makes you feel.

If you focus on it you’ll likely notice some or all of the following:

Feeling sadness, defective, unworthy, deficient, inadequate, ashamed, embarrassed, alone, different, angry, neglected, less than, like you missed out on something important, afraid of it happening to you and so on.

So what does all of this set you up for?

Well for many things but a few major things are that it undermines your confidence in a) your capability to have a relationship, b) your confidence in others and c) your confidence in relationships in general.

So what does all that do to you and your chances of having/sustaining a healthy relationship?

Clearly it lowers the odds doesn’t it?

Is there a way out of this? Absolutely!

One must dis-identify with that past event of parental divorce. They only way to do that is to erase that negative event from one’s subconscious mind permanently. It is now possible to do that with a new coaching tool called the Mind Resonance Process (MRP).

If you’d like to learn more about improving your relationship chances, reducing your chances of experiencing a divorce by erasing negative memories or to have a free telephone/Skype coaching consultation kindly visit the web link below.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Self Empowerment Life Coach, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

postheadericon Relationships – Why Negative Experiences Repeat Themselves

If you’ve ever experienced some form of negative or what some refer to as abusive events in your relationships you may have, if you’re older or experienced enough, also noticed that the such events have a tendency to repeat themselves. Why is this?

Well in order to understand this one must first look to the origins of the problem.

When the memories of these events get stored in one’s mind and body they do several things.

So having read all this, and believing that such memories cannot be changed might make one feel rather helpless and disparaging of ever being happy and free.

Fortunately the past “can” be changed! Yes, I know you’re likely now thinking “this man has lost his mind”, but bear with me a little while longer.

In the last 12 years I have been working with a new tool called the Mind Resonance Process® (MRP) which you can experience freely as you wish. I have shown in scientifically repeatable case studies over the last decade that negative memories can be “permanently” released from one’s mind and body.

MRP most importantly has the capacity to alter the focus of what one attracts into their lives from victim like events to those that are empowering and life giving rather than life taking. It’s like re-programming your mind and body for an entirely new life experience and then living from there.

This is equivalent to becoming invisible to negative events and visible to positive events so that the former will never find you and the latter will always find you. Feeling inspired?

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Self Empowerment Life Coach, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

postheadericon How To Stop Being Needy And Create A Healthy Marriage

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Do you know that neediness, like an automatic self sabotaging program, takes over as one is trying to portray one’s best self in a relationship and causes their best efforts to fail repeatedly and disastrously?

Finally, do you know that this vicious negative cycle can be nipped in the bud permanently simply by deleting the underlying program that is responsible for all needy and unattractive tendencies? Want to learn more about freeing yourself from this negativity and transforming yourself into the self assured, self confident, self directed and attractive person you were meant to be? Read on.

So what is that underlying negative program and how does it arise?

There they generate and support a host of negative “self beliefs” such as: I’m unlovable, I’m inadequate, I’m defective, There’s something wrong with me, I’m unable to take care of myself, I’m unattractive, and I’m unwanted to name just a few. These beliefs create the corresponding “needs” for: love, acceptance, validation, acknowledgement, security, nurturing, understanding, sympathy, etc.

Future relationships then become exclusively about trying to satisfy these needs rather than an open sharing between two emotionally mature, whole, complete and self assured individuals. This need to get one’s needs met is inherently unattractive because it is essentially “exploitative” and “manipulative”! Most people caught in this negative “needy trance” often don’t see this because they are generally too desperate to get the need met.

This means that they remain susceptible to having the neediness overtake them and ruin their chances of having a healthy successful relationship.

So what is the solution to this problem, you ask?

Well, in my experience the only real solution is to delete the program itself once and for all. This is only accomplished if/when the early negative memories of bad relationships are deleted! So is that possible, you ask?

Absolutely!

This leaves the individual feeling not only totally transformed but also helps to restore them to the experience of their original true self confident and authentic self!

Now I realize that for many of you this is hard to fathom or even understand. The reason for this is that many on this planet are so caught up in their negative trance like states of neediness that they have practically forgotten who and what they really are. This process simply helps one “wake up” to that true being each of us is.

To truly appreciate what this feels like it is necessary to actually experience the process itself as nothing more I can say here can effectively convey an experience that many are asleep to.

So if you are frustrated with your needy state and want to wake up to your self confident self kindly visit the web site below where you can learn more about this process and where you can also request a free introductory telephone/Skype consultation that will begin to change you and your life forever.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Life, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

Or Join The Next Free Skype Webinar Event

postheadericon Want to Feel Whole, Complete And Attractive As A Person?

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Do you know that most people, whether they choose to admit it to themselves or not, feel a sense of inadequacy and incompleteness within? How do I know this? Well if you look around and witness the extent to which many attempt to prop themselves up with wealth, sexy looks, flashy clothes, fancy cars, hip partners, plastic surgery, power, etc. you will recognize that there is a deep need that is attempting to satisfy itself here. Do you know that need is essentially insatiable and speaks to a deep feeling of emptiness that lies at the core of the current human condition?

Finally do you know that “condition” is an abnormal one that not only needs permanent rectification but which can be rectified if approached in the correct manner? What is that approach you ask?

This feeling of emptiness is more often recognized or “felt” as feelings of inadequacy or incompleteness. The former is probably more familiar to most while the latter gets cloaked behind relationships. After all, how many times have you heard the phrase “you complete me”?

So how is this empty state “abnormal” you ask if it is all around us and being experienced by practically everyone you know? Well for one because it “feels” bad, uncomfortable and undesirable. Secondly, it has control over practically everyone’s life. In other words individuals who obsessively try to navigate around this empty feeling are only feeling enslaved and dictated to by it.

So what is normal, you might ask?

Well, notice how this feels to you:

A person who feels whole, complete, adequate, emotionally independent, self sufficient, strong, confident, resilient, self directed, self assured, self validating, spontaneous, authentic, honest, living their truth, in integrity, peaceful, joyful, carefree, free and attractive, to name a few.

Now I know you will say that this sounds like a rarity and also impossible to achieve or sustain indefinitely given life’s stressors. I will say however that not only is this possible it is also supposed to be the “normal” human condition. So if that is the case how is that we find ourselves in such a sad, depleted, and debilitated state. More over what, if anything can be done to get us back “home” to ourselves?

Well, it turns out that the emptiness reflects a deficiency in what I call one’s Life Force Energy (or LFE). LFE is essentially the vital energy of life that is a) the source of all the positive resources I mentioned above and b) is responsible for the structural and functional integrity of your mind, body and life.

Each time a person experiences a stressful negative event the memory of the event gets downloaded into the subconscious mind/body and there behaves like a “hole” in the person’s energy field that constantly leaks out LFE rendering them feeling depleted and therefore empty.

It is now possible to permanently and completely “plug” those holes and restore LFE simply by deleting the memories of those stressful events from the mind/body. As this happens the person begins to return to their “normal” natural and empowered state as the human being they were meant to be.

To learn more about a new coaching process that has been helping individuals around the world achieve this kindly go the web site below where you can also request a free introductory telephone/Skype consultation that will begin to help you take your energy and your life back.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Self Empowerment Life Coach, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

postheadericon ***Public Speaking Tips – How to Make Your Voice Sound Lower

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Would you like a deeper speaking voice? Perhaps you are over 21 and think your voice sounds too young. Maybe you feel that your voice is wimpy, strident, harsh, whispery, or nasal. The good news is that you actually have a deeper or lower voice inside of you. It is there just waiting to be discovered.

Yes, the optimum pitch of your speaking voice is definitely located in your lower register, but that does not mean you should be ‘rumbling around’ at your lowest point. (Pitch refers to the highness or lowness of sound and should not be confused with volume which is the loudness or softness of sound.)

99% of the population powers their voice primarily from the cavities of the throat and voice box which means that the pitch of their ‘habitual’ speaking voice is higher than it should be. When I was in graduate school, my singing professor told me that the pitch of my habitual speaking voice was several steps higher than that of my real or resonant speaking voice. So I practiced using that deeper, richer sound when I was at work. Because much of my business was on the phone, I was able to make my ‘real’ voice a habit in just a few short weeks.

You have a better voice inside of you. Everyone does; however, most people are unaware that they can improve their vocal image. Keep in mind, the sound of your voice accounts for 37% of the image you project. And that sound is what you hear on your answering machine or voicemail and not what you hear in your head.

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postheadericon Men, Women, Money and Relationship Conflict

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Do you know that one of the major factors leading to conflict in relationships is the mismatch that exists between partners in their ability to earn an independent financial living?

Do you know that this mismatch comes about when individuals of different genders are not allowed to fully develop themselves as emotionally confident and independent creative beings?

Finally do you know that it is now possible to fully delete the old subconsciously programmed gender role expectations that create this problem thereby allowing individuals to have healthy resilient and long lasting relationships? Want to learn more?

This leaves both men and women raised with these subconsciously programmed expectations feeling emotionally deficient and therefore brittle and vulnerable to potential environmental economic changes.

All programmed role expectations exist stored within the mind/body as negative limiting beliefs that block the full creative expression and potential of an individual. These beliefs are also supported by underlying negative or limiting memories from early life, often pertaining to parent-parent and parent-child interactions.

Such memories support and keep in place their associated negative limiting beliefs such as: I’m unworthy, I’m undeserving, It is my sole role to be a mother, It is my sole role to be a provider, etc,

Now it is possible to completely and permanently erase these memories and their associated beliefs thereby allowing an individual to more freely create their life and relationship experience.

This leads to strong, healthy, adaptable co-creative relationships that last.

To learn more about how to erase negative limiting beliefs and memories kindly visit the web link below.

Author’s Bio: 

Nick Arrizza, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor, is an International Expert Life, Relationship and Spiritual Tele-Coach, Author and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process® (MRP).

A Free 1 Hour Introductory MRP Telephone/Skype Coaching Consultation And Free Copy of My E-book are available upon request (You will be asked to cover your own long distance telephone charges)

Or Join The Next Free Skype Webinar Event

postheadericon The Key to Having a Successful Long Distance Relationship

I’ve been in a long distance relationship before and it can be very stressful. It also will ONLY work if both persons involved are willing to do what it takes to make it work.

Based on my experience of being in a long term relationship that eventually led to being engaged, here are the steps that I recommend. These steps can be applied if you’re currently in a long term relationship or are thinking about pursuing one.

The key to having a successful long distance relationship is that both of you must have made the decision that you’re going to be committed to one another and are working towards eventually living together or moving closer to one another. This is a serious conversation that you need to have with your man and it shouldn’t be pushed off.

Another key in having a successful long distance relationship is communication. Because you’re not going to see each other every day, you need to keep the lines of communication open and talk often. With the limitless use of technology there is no excuse why you haven’t seen him virtually or spoken to him in days.

Because we need human interaction, you both need to come to an agreement on how often you are going to see each other. Depending on your work schedule and how far you live from one another, you need to make time to see each other. When my fiancé and I were in a long distance relationship we saw each other twice a month. Because we both had weekends off and due to our finances, we came to the agreement that we would spend two weekends out of the month together. One weekend I would travel to see him and the other weekend he would come and see me. This seemed to work out great for us until we eventually were able to live in the same city.

It is possible to have a successful long distance relationship. It just takes a strong commitment, open lines of communication, and team work.

Author’s Bio: 

Erica Johnson, the Mr. Right Attraction Mentor, is the owner of igniteyourlovelife.com, where she teaches women a step-by-step system to enhance their love life and attract a good man.